It’s a question I get asked day in day out by our couples “How do I ask for cash instead of wedding gifts without offending the guests?"
Ok so lets not beat around the bush asking for money at the best of times can be awkward. That being said when Phil & I got married we included a money request poem with our invitations. We included it to make it easy for our guests should they want to give us a gift. Not that we wanted or expected anything. We chose this poem as we thought it was lighthearted and fun.
“We haven’t got a gift list for all of you to see,
Because as you all know we never can agree!
But if you’d like to help us start our married life,
cash towards our honeymoon, would save a lot of strife!”
When we go to weddings we always give money, even if no gift poem or request for money was given. Why? Well so the giftees are able to buy something that they actually want or need rather than something we think they may want. Today most couples live together so they don’t need towels, a kettle, linen, plates, and so on. Not to mention that everyone has their own personal taste so how would we know which plate pattern, colour kettle or towel type they would like?
Don’t just take our word for it though as around 90% of the the invitations we make at By Invitationly include some type of request for money or vouchers. So please stop worrying about offending people or thinking your request is cheeky, it’s not! It’s your wedding so do what is right for you.
If you do want to include a money gift poem please see some of our suggestions below.
Wedding Poems Requesting Money as a Gift
If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way,
A gift of money in a card would really make our day!
We made a commitment, some time ago,
Together through life, we were destined to go.
To save you looking, shopping and buying,
Here is an idea, we hope you’ll like trying!
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well,
And please make a donation to our wishing well.
Our life together has already begun
And we almost have everything under the sun
So we both thought we would make a suggestion
To save you from all the searching and guessing
Instead of spending lots and lots
Just put some money with your card
And place it into our Moneybox
Large amounts are not anticipated
Any amount would be appreciated
Now that we have saved you all the fuss
We can’t wait for you to celebrate with us!
Now we are to be (Mr & Mrs) (Mr & Mr) (Mrs & Mrs)
We don’t need a wedding list of dishes
We have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves
And we have dreams for which we have to save.
If you would like to give us a gift
A cheque or vouchers would give us a lift
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